Dear Aidan,
Leadership lessons often come from unexpected places. One of the most profound influences on my leadership approach didn’t come from a book or a keynote speaker, but from something much simpler — a 2″x2″ magnet on a filing cabinet I saw in grade 5! At the time, I had no idea this tiny object would shape my leadership philosophy for the rest of my life.
The Magnet that Sparked a New Perspective
I am not a teacher, only a fellow traveler of whom you asked the way.
These words, on that seemingly insignificant magnet, hit me in a way I couldn’t explain as a child. The idea of leadership as a journey we walk together, rather than one person giving orders from above, resonated with me deeply. I’ve always had (and still sometimes have) a “complicated” relationship with authority. This stood out to me as an example of true leadership, and encouraged me, especially as a young kid who didn’t trust most authority figures. Though I didn’t fully grasp it at the time, the seed was planted.
Embracing the Role of a “Fellow Traveler”
As I grew older and entered the professional world, those words stayed with me. I preferred this idea of a kind, collaborative approach to leadership, where guidance was earned, not imposed. The magnet helped me understand that true leadership isn’t about commanding from a pedestal but walking side by side with others. It’s about guiding, supporting, and learning together!
This approach became central to most things I do, whether I’m leading a team on a complex program or mentoring someone new in their career. I don’t see myself as someone with all the answers, but as someone learning alongside others. You’ll often hear me say: “I rarely give advice. I usually give data points to think about.” This philosophy builds trust, opens communication, and fosters a collaborative atmosphere where innovation can thrive.
In a world where leadership is often equated with hierarchy and rigidity, my style may seem unconventional. But it has often allowed me to connect with people on a deeper level, build cohesive teams, and drive success. The magnet’s message — simple yet profound — has remained a constant reminder that leadership isn’t about having control, but about being part of the journey.
A Gift That Came Full Circle
When I graduated from high school, as the yearbook editor, I dedicated the yearbook to the teacher who had that small magnet on her filing cabinet. In a touching gesture, she wrote me a thank you letter and gave me the same magnet as a gift almost a decade later! That small, seemingly insignificant object had a life-changing impact on me, guiding me to becoming the leader I am today.
Looking back, I’m immensely grateful for that brief moment in grade 5 and the wisdom in those words. It’s shaped how I lead and, more importantly, how I live. Leadership is less about being in charge and more about walking the path with others.
Love always,
Dad